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There is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of Motherhood

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In Lake Powell, My mom brought a copy of the April 2008 Conference issue of the Ensign  and we read through the talk by M. Russell Ballard, Daughters of God. I remember listening to it that day on TV and thinking this talk is for me. I am sure many of you felt that way but it really touched me. I thought I would highlight some of the things he said.  He was talking about ways that we, as busy Mothers can reduce pressures and enjoy our families more.

First, recognize that the joy of motherhood comes in moments. There will be hard times and frustrating times. But amid the challenges, there are shining moments of joy and satisfaction.

Author Anna Quindlen reminds us not to rush past the fleeting moments. She said: “The biggest mistake I made [as a parent] is the one that most of us make. . . . I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of [my three children] sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages six, four, and one. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less”(Loud and Clear [2004], 10–11).

Second, don’t overschedule yourselves or your children. We live in a world that is filled with options. If we are not careful, we will find every minute jammed with social events, classes, exercise time, book clubs, scrapbooking, Church callings, music, sports, the Internet, and our favorite TV shows. One mother told me of a time that her children had 29 scheduled commitments every week: music lessons, Scouts, dance, Little League, day camps, soccer, art, and so forth. She felt like a taxi driver. Finally, she called a family meeting and announced, “Something has to go; we have no time to ourselves and no time for each other.” Families need unstructured time when relationships can deepen and real parenting can take place. Take time to listen, to laugh, and to play together.

Third, even as you try to cut out the extra commitments, sisters, find some time for yourself to cultivate your gifts and interests. Pick one or two things that you would like to learn or do that will enrich your life, and make time for them. Water cannot be drawn from an empty well, and if you are not setting aside a little time for what replenishes you, you will have less and less to give to others, even to your children. Avoid any kind of substance abuse, mistakenly thinking that it will help you accomplish more. And don’t allow yourself to be caught up in the time-wasting, mind-numbing things like television soap operas or surfing the Internet. Turn to the Lord in faith, and you will know what to do and how to do it.

Fourth, pray, study, and teach the gospel. Pray deeply about your children and about your role as a mother. Parents can offer a unique and wonderful kind of prayer because they are praying to the Eternal Parent of us all. There is great power in a prayer that essentially says, “We are steward-parents over Thy children, Father; please help us to raise them as Thou wouldst want them raised.”

I am going to try and live this way more. 

 

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2 thoughts on “There is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of Motherhood

  1. very true- I love that talk- I have actually been listening to a conference on child development and play for my some of my professional certifications – and this is the exact thing that all the researchers are saying also- kids need to play, they need to disconnect from consumer society because it is teaching them to disrespect their parents and feel greater anxiety, depression, less satisfaction.

  2. I really enjoyed reading this on your blog. Motherhood is interesting isn’t it. One day your totally in love with your children and the next your wishing you were on a beautiful island all alone just chillin without those little brats. haha. This was a great talk for me and I loved hearing it. I’ve had several mom’s talk to me about this talk and how much it helped them or how it was written for them. I agree, I too want to live more this way! To just enjoy my moments with my family cause you never know and definately you want to live without regrets.
    Thanks Courtney! ♥

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